50. Love Responds to Energy: Why Overfunctioning Is Creating Disconnection ⛓️💥
Are you a mom who does everything, holds it all together, and still feels disconnected from your partner?
In this episode of The Heart AF Podcast, Chelsea VanBuskirk explores how energy—not effort—is often the missing link in modern marriages and long-term relationships.
This episode dives into the emotional and energetic patterns many women fall into after years of caregiving, overfunctioning, and silently carrying the mental load. Chelsea breaks down how resentment, burnout, and disconnection don’t come from a lack of love—but from chronic self-abandonment and unmet needs.
You’ll learn why love doesn’t respond to demands, control, or quiet bitterness—but instead to clarity, softness, emotional safety, and aligned boundaries. Chelsea explains how overgiving and doing it all can unintentionally teach your partner to step back, and how shifting your energetic presence can transform how support, intimacy, and partnership show up in your relationship.
This episode offers practical, grounded examples of how to:
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Stop overfunctioning without guilt
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Ask for support in a way that invites connection instead of conflict
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Shift from resentment to self-alignment
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Create emotional safety without shrinking yourself
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Trust your partner to step forward by learning how to step back
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Strengthen your relationship through feminine energy, boundaries, and appreciation
If you’re a mom in your late 30s or 40s who feels exhausted, unseen, or emotionally disconnected in your marriage, this episode will help you reclaim your power, soften your nervous system, and create space for love to meet you where you are.
This is a powerful conversation about burnout recovery, emotional boundaries, feminine energy, and rebuilding connection in long-term relationships—starting with you.
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