27. Erica Marie and Me -Why LOVE is all You Need-

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Hi everyone.

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It's Chelsea VanBuskirk
with the Heart AF podcast.

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Hope you guys are all doing well.

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I'm super excited for today's episode
cuz I have a very special guest, Erica

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Marie, I'm so excited to have you here.

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And I'm gonna just read
a little bit about her.

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Um, she gave me this amazing bio and
oh my gosh, I just love her so much.

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So Erica Marie is an uplifter, a
speaker and success coach with over

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two decades of entrepreneurship and a
former executive in the corporate world.

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She specializes in intuitive mindfulness
and a wellness with a holistic

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approach, and she has a passion for
people as a humanitarian and servant.

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She's committed to serving others with
compassion and empathy, delivering a

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promise of love in all of her endeavors,
her expertise in business and life success

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coaching along with her, uh, passion
for mental, physical, and spiritual

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wellness has helped countless
individuals achieve a more fulfilling,

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balanced, purposeful and mindful life.

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Woo, Erica Marie's dedication to
making the world a better place

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has earned her a reputation as a
powerful, intuitive speaker and true

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inspiration to those around her.

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Woo.

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Okay, so welcome, Erica Marie.

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I'm so excited to have you here, and
that is just, oh my gosh, what a bio.

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Yes, exactly.

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And um, I could tell you that me
and Erica are so similar and do

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you, like, do you go Erica Marie?

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I just wanna make sure
like, is it Eric Marie?

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Yes.

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Okay, just wanna make sure.

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So Erica, Marie and I are both mothers.

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We both have a strong intuition and we.

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Have similar, I feel like
beliefs as far as spirituality

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goes, and we both are uplifters.

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Um, so we just have so much in
common and I'm so excited to have

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you on the Heart AF podcast today.

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And, um, you know, also as mothers
and just helping uplift others, I, you

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know, we both have experienced grief.

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We've experienced, you know,
heartache and changes and.

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You know, having to stand up for
ourselves and our beliefs and

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being true to our heart, right?

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To be able to break through and
blossom into these amazing women.

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So, Erica Marie I would love for
you, to share some of your story

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and maybe a little bit of your
evolution to maybe think of like

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where you were before you kind of.

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Became to this awakened brilliant
woman that you are today.

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Yes.

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Well, thank you first and foremost.

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I appreciate it.

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I'm so excited for today.

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Um, I do know that we have
so many synergies and we

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are soul sisters for sure.

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Um, and that being said, you know, I
feel like my power comes and obviously

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from within, but the power of love
really resides in me as a woman.

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Yes.

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Loving everything, all
think being a woman.

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Um, everything about the female energy,
everything about who we are, our makeup,

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um, understanding, having that awareness
of our emotions right, and how we operate

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and how we see things and our perspective.

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From a little girl I had it.

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And, um, some, I'm from, of course,
five sisters from my parents, and

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then I have a half sister as well
from my father's second marriage.

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And I came from a host of women, uh,
aunts, um, amazing, uh, women in my life

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from, you know, friendships and, and
just then being a mother of three, I have

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my son first and then the three girls.

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And so I just feel like I've had
nothing but women all my life around me.

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And cousins and all of that.

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And we ma majority was always women.

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And it was very little that I
realized that I had a passion . That

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was very different or always
being connected to women.

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Meaning if it was my aunt in the room,
um, with even when , my dad was around or

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uncles, I always gravitated to, whether it
was a grandmother, an aunt, someone else.

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That was a woman and I had sisters
who, you know, bullied and did

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the things kind of, they did.

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Um, and always got got
on me cuz I was the baby.

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But I feel like a lot of that.

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A 10, like magnetic attraction,
I guess is what I wanna say for

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women was really powerful for me.

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And even my mother who, uh, I love we, it
was beautiful in the beginning and then

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when my parents got divorced, it was a
little rocky and I got to a place where

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I knew that, um, everything that she was.

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And wasn't, was still creating
me, it was still forming me.

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It was creating the, you know, the
lack, it was creating all the, you

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know, the self-doubt, the abandonment,
the disbelief, you know, all the things

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that you go through as a kid without
having, you know, the mother kind

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of really there and present for you.

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Um, And really coming into myself
through my teenage years and getting

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reacquainted with her and really
understanding like, wow, you know, I've

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gotta like almost honor her regardless
cuz she did the best she could.

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And there was a journey there from
a healing process that I feel like

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I started to really understand.

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Women the most, looking at my mother's
life looking, um, and, and mirrored it.

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There were so many things
that were mirrored too.

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Uh, and so I would just understand like,
wow, how did this ever happen to me?

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And I have all these amazing people and
I have all these different people and

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personalities, but, um, my, to the core of
me, I still with mirroring my mother and

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I thought, wow, this is pretty powerful.

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And there was just a self
revelation of who am I?

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Who is this little girl that
I have to talk to, right?

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Who is this, um, little person
inside of me that is longing for a

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love that I never really understood
because I had never experienced it.

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Yeah.

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So go forward and I, you know, I become,
you know, a young mother and married,

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uh, at like 22, uh, and really got to
a place of like, you know, business and

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corporate and or, you know, you're around
all these amazing people and, and women

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in leadership, but it was like, I still.

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There's something, right?

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Mm-hmm.

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, there's always that something.

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And

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I have goosebumps , I have
goosebumps listening to this

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story cause Oh my God, yeah.

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Keep going.

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Yeah.

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It's

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like there's that, something that's
resonating with like pulling me and

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I'm, I, I'm trying to understand, you
know, even in leadership or in, in rooms

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and in, um, boardrooms I gravitated
to women and what their stories

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were and what did they need from me.

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And I was always in this service
role, but I always delivered love and

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it was a love that was actionable.

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It listened.

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It was not judging, it was
kind, it was empathetic.

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And I knew, I was like, this is it.

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And so it was something that I just
continued to kind of like cultivate

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on and, and kind of just sit with
it and honor it when it would be

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present in a room powerful with women.

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And I thought, okay,
now I, I'm getting this.

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And I really got to a place, there
was a pivotal moment in my life

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and we're gonna, I know we'll talk
more, but there was a pivot, pivotal

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moment in my life when I lost my dad.

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and I moved out west and I was
looking, you know, into hiking and

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everything that I had going on.

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And you know, coming from the corporate
world, you're really high driven.

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Uh, you care about the people, right?

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You care about the business.

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Um, but you don't get that
time to really self-reflect.

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You are always in service.

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And I was on a mountaintop and I
remember, um, and now's where I'll

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probably get a little emotional.

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I remember missing my dad so much
saying, you're beautiful from the

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inside, and that's what makes you unique.

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That's what sets you apart.

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Your beauty has never been on the
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the beholder, you know, half decent.

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But inside, my dad would always say to
me, your beauty's lying from the inside.

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And if you allow that light to
shine, right, like you're limitless.

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Now we know.

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But he used to say, back in the
day, sky's the limit for you.

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And I remember being on the mountaintop
and saying, I've gotta follow this

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beauty, this love this, pull this passion.

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Uh, that's in the inside and
what does that look like?

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And she is a love that has
never, ever experienced a love

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the way that I can give it.

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So I say that to say the revelation
in a, in aha for me was the way that

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I love and the way that I show up in
relationships, be it personal, right?

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Friendships, business clients,
people around me from the president,

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to, my dad would always say to
the homeless, I have a love,

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right where I am with you, wherever
you are in your life, where we

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show up together, there is just an.

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A natural, empathetic, right.

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Intuitiveness.

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Mm-hmm.

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of, let me I see you.

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Yes.

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Oh, yes.

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Yeah.

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So that was kind of the aha for me.

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And then, you know, as I just
continued to self-develop, right?

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And really invest in, you know,
people and coaches and, and, uh,

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intuitive leaders, uh, to really say,
you know, what is this, what, what

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do I even call this thing, right?

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Mm-hmm.

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. And, um, you know, then going
through the branding guru, uh, his

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self rich Keller, and, you know,
putting that core value in me.

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He's like, you're an uplifter.

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He's like, But your promise
that you lead with is love.

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And it was powerful to me cuz it just
reaffirms everything that I, who I am

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and what I do and everything that I touch
is really powered by the most highest

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energy we can operate in, which is love.

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Absolutely.

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Oh my gosh, that's so beautiful.

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Oh yeah.

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I mean I was getting goosebumps cuz I
mean just, you know, we do have very

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similar stories, which is just so crazy.

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And again, one of those things,
Everything happens for a reason, right?

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Like the people that are put
in our life are for a reason.

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And it's just, it's like
you can't make it up, right?

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Like the synchronicities you see and just
the, the different themes and just wow.

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And I, um, I love that.

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Love is this kind of,
that's like the core, right?

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Is everything is love.

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God is love, right?

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Like love is the end all, be all thing.

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I think I even saw since, you know,
we're just coming off of Valentine's Day,

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there was, um, a video I saw of, uh, Mel
Robbins, I think who I love and I think

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is an awesome, um, inspiration person.

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But she said, you guys,
I've got it figured out.

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The secret to life, um, or why we're
here is to love and be loved, right?

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To receive love and to give love.

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And it's like, yes, absolutely.

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That is Absolutely it.

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And um, you also had something that
I just, I've, I've talked a lot about

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too, is just people feel feeling seen.

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And that's something that I really wanna
offer as well, is just to let people know.

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And again, I like how you said that,
that I think that was from your dad,

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like from the president to the homeless.

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Like I've said that too is
like, you know, the homeless guy

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down the street from me is no.

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Worse or better than me, right?

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Like we are all on the
same equal playing field.

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Like we are all just as worthy,
um, as, you know, whatever

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you, wherever you may be.

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And so I loved how you put that.

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Like you meet people
where they are at in life.

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And that's exactly like what I wanna do
is offer people is like this safe space

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no matter where you are or what you're
going through, what pain you're feeling,

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or, or how much you dislike yourself.

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Or you think you've made mistakes
and you think you've just done

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all these things wrong, like
you are still loved and perfect.

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And you're still whole in that
I still see you just as you are.

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You don't have to hide and pretend.

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And that's something I think we were kind
of, yeah, ping ponging on a conversation

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recently about that is just we hate
seeing people who just get so down.

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Um, You know, and kind of let themselves
go in a way where they might turn to

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addictions or overeating or extreme
exercise or whatever they're doing to

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numb themselves, like running away and
hiding from who they truly are cuz they

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don't feel like they can be accepted
or fully be themselves and be loved.

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Right?

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And to get that love and it's
like, I feel like me and you

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are like these changemakers.

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I wanna change that and just let
whoever is feeling that way to let

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them know like, no, that is wrong.

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Like, we are here for you.

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We got you.

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We see you.

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Yeah.

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And you are loved and perfect just as you

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are.

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Absolutely.

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I love that.

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And you know, two things, uh, I wanna
go back to of course, you know, yes.

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God is love, right?

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And, and having that connection
and understanding, uh, the one.

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for me is the love that I feel like I
can get connected to source, connected

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to him, uh, from that perspective.

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But that is a love that for me, I channel
that is so powerful that I know, I know

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beyond the shadow of a doubt, I lacked
it or myself and lacked it from others.

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And what I did was, I feel like that
allowed me to see people right to

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where they were, was the experiences
that I've been through, right?

252
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Mm-hmm.

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, my test being, my testimony, my.

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being my message.

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Yes.

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Everything that I feel like I've
experienced, knowing that it was

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like, okay, this is not just for me.

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This has to be for a greater purpose.

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Yes.

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Right?

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Because

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everything that, even whether I by
choice, by bad mistake or by failure of

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my own or by like not self-inflicted and
by others doing it to me, whatever that

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was in my life that I was experienced,
there was always, um, a fortitude and a

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grit and a strength and a courage that
came through powered deep within that.

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I only was broken in the moment.

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I never really allowed myself to,
even if it was a self sabotaging

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moment, it was literally a moment.

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Mm-hmm.

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it, it didn't go on farther then.

273
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Right?

274
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So it didn't turn into a week,
it didn't turn into a month,

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it didn't turn into a year.

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It didn't turn into a decade.

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, it was about the moment.

278
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Okay, I'm honoring, I
think this pain, right?

279
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And then mm-hmm.

280
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. Okay.

281
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So I'm at a self-sabotage moment.

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I'm at the bottom of a, you know,
the bottom of a wine bottle.

283
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What does this look like?

284
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And why am I, you know, and then
it's like, okay, I grieved like

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four family members in 18 months.

286
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Absolutely.

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I can see why I would be at the bottom
of a, you know, a wine bottle, but

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I didn't, I didn't keep it there.

289
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Yes, it's safe, stock.

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And one of the things that I feel like
is very hard for people when they do

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have those moments in trials in life
and adversity comes their way, or, you

292
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know, a challenge or a trauma, right?

293
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They don't have someone to be able to
say, this is what I'm feeling right now.

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Without either judgment, without a
prescription, without putting, locked

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away, without being, you know, all of
the things that I feel like come with

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just honor where you are, right?

297
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Mm-hmm.

298
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, . And it's okay.

299
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And we can get through this together,
but so many people, I feel like

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we lose sight of them or they
lose sight of themselves, right?

301
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Yes.

302
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But those who say they love
aren't actually loving in action.

303
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Mm-hmm.

304
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, those who say they are in a, you know, a
profession, um, are they really purposed

305
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in the profession for the people or
are they purposed in the profession

306
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for the lifestyle that it yields..

307
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Mm-hmm.

308
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. Yeah.

309
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And you lose sight of people
in everything that you do.

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And you become, and you wanna be, once you
lose sight of people or the person, you're

311
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losing sight of what really matters.

312
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Yes.

313
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So if you go back to Mel Robbins,
which I love too, it is about

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love and being love, right?

315
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And it is that reciprocity
of give, get back, right?

316
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Mm-hmm.

317
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,
that's.

318
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. That's the beauty of, I feel like
the love that we can do when we

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uplift someone is meeting them,
of course, right where they are.

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But it's being able to connect
with them and, and things that

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either I've experienced or people
who I've helped, or people who you

322
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know, have been in my family or
friendships, like things along the way.

323
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I'm able to draw from just intuitively,
naturally, and it's just the thing

324
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that comes when somebody else is on
the other lense or the other side.

325
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Right.

326
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Right.

327
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Yeah.

328
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It's just, that's the power of love.

329
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That's when you are operating
in that highest form.

330
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Mm-hmm.

331
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, it will naturally, automatically
magnify like exactly what it

332
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needs to do for that person.

333
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Right.

334
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And I don't believe in happenstances.

335
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I don't believe in chance.

336
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Right, right.

337
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I there's some things that, you know, for
me, I'm just like, no, there's a reason

338
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for this and, and then you just know.

339
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You just know me.

340
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, absolutely.

341
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Yeah.

342
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But for those who don't know
what they don't know, it's very

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hard to come out of the chaos.

344
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The yes sabotage, the addictions, it's,
it's, because they just don't know that

345
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there's, there's hope on the other side.

346
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Right?

347
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Right.

348
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That there's another way.

349
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Yeah, there's another way.

350
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There's another way.

351
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But you've gotta do it
through a loving way.

352
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And love is an action.

353
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You know?

354
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It's how you treat someone.

355
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It's how you make them feel.

356
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What are they leaving your presence with?

357
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Yes.

358
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You know, we say, talk
about that gift, right?

359
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The actual is a gift, but
what are you leaving them?

360
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. Yeah.

361
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Like, I wanna leave a fragrance of love
everywhere that I go, in the rooms that

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I step into, the stages that I step on.

363
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Right?

364
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Yeah.

365
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I wanna leave that fragrance and
it's, it's a beautiful thing to

366
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be in and I'm honored to be, you
know, to do who it, to do it.

367
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I get to do it.

368
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That's a beautiful thing.

369
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Yeah.

370
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I get, yeah.

371
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Absolutely.

372
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Absolutely.

373
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Um, what do you think, um, is the
hard, like for people who aren't aware.

374
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For people who don't know what they know.

375
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So like, it sounds like to me, like
you've kind of always had this feeling

376
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or this calling, which I can totally
relate and I wasn't really sure what

377
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to call it either, but this like, I ha
but there's something here that I have

378
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got to get out that I need to follow.

379
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Right.

380
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And um, but I wanna table that for now
and kind of talk about for the people

381
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who maybe don't know, because, you
know, I do believe that we all innately

382
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we come from this place of abundance and
creation, and then we get, we are born

383
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here and we get the, this conditioning and
we, we just forget, like it's like this,

384
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you know, like the men in black thing
where you are, we forget, like we don't

385
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remember that we are abundant and creator.

386
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. We, we just, we feel like we're
in this limited place and that it,

387
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there's scarcity and it's competition
and it's dog eat dog and mm-hmm.

388
00:17:19,183 --> 00:17:21,918
um, all these things where, you
know, life kind of just beats

389
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us down and people get lost.

390
00:17:23,718 --> 00:17:23,778
Yeah.

391
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And.

392
00:17:25,308 --> 00:17:29,448
You know, I think like, it's weird because
I know what, what happened for me and how

393
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I kind of started to become awakened or
remember, um, and kind of know this stuff.

394
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And it was just me seeking out, honestly,
mediumship to connect with my mother who

395
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had passed when we had unresolved issues.

396
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Like that was literally the thing
that opened the door for me to even

397
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explore this whole world of just
love and, and, and, you know, opening

398
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up my spirituality and, and just.

399
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Finding love and self-love and
finding, you know, the power within

400
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me and the love within me, right?

401
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Yes.

402
00:17:58,263 --> 00:18:01,473
But I, I wonder like, what, what
do, like, I guess the question I'm

403
00:18:01,473 --> 00:18:06,273
trying to ask you is what do you think
about people who are lost or don't

404
00:18:06,273 --> 00:18:09,363
see, like, what, what's the way that
they kind of get awakened or what.

405
00:18:10,048 --> 00:18:13,008
do you see as a solution to help reach
those people who may not even just

406
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have this awareness or ability to pull
themselves out because they can't see

407
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that hope, they can't see that love yet?

408
00:18:19,008 --> 00:18:19,098
Mm-hmm.

409
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, I mean, I think as much as I wanna
put it back on the person who can't

410
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see it, I am an accountability soul.

411
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I that there are so many of us
out there who aren't truly being

412
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accountable for their calling mm.

413
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And the goal of love is to be led.

414
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Mm-hmm.

415
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by love.

416
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And so I'd like to challenge, and
it's part of my mission and vision and

417
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everything else I've got working on will
table later, but I challenge more those

418
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whom have it and are called to do it.

419
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And be that guide and be that
mentor and be that success coach.

420
00:19:01,690 --> 00:19:01,900
Right.

421
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And love for that person.

422
00:19:03,010 --> 00:19:03,290
Mm-hmm.

423
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to find their tribes,
to find their people.

424
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because so much someone in sabotage,
someone in grief, someone in self-doubt,

425
00:19:13,450 --> 00:19:15,400
someone in imposter, . Right.

426
00:19:15,730 --> 00:19:18,100
Syndrome, competition, just everything.

427
00:19:18,100 --> 00:19:18,340
Right?

428
00:19:18,340 --> 00:19:19,960
They're in failure zone.

429
00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,930
They're just continuing
to just, you know, revolve

430
00:19:22,935 --> 00:19:23,710
around spiral.

431
00:19:23,715 --> 00:19:23,980
Yep.

432
00:19:24,070 --> 00:19:24,310
Mm-hmm.

433
00:19:24,585 --> 00:19:24,890
.
Mm-hmm.

434
00:19:24,970 --> 00:19:27,190
. You can revolve around
it or go farther to rock.

435
00:19:27,250 --> 00:19:27,880
To the rocks.

436
00:19:27,885 --> 00:19:28,570
Rocks, yes.

437
00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:33,400
But the problem I see today is people
have a lot of talk and no action.

438
00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:34,825
. Yeah.

439
00:19:34,915 --> 00:19:39,405
And so my mission is to really hold
those accountable who have the calling.

440
00:19:39,705 --> 00:19:39,795
Mm-hmm.

441
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to be able to reach out and go down.

442
00:19:42,515 --> 00:19:42,755
Yes.

443
00:19:43,095 --> 00:19:44,055
And grab a hand

444
00:19:44,715 --> 00:19:46,515
to be the leaders and yeah.

445
00:19:46,515 --> 00:19:46,815
Mm-hmm.

446
00:19:47,325 --> 00:19:50,085
.
And so that's where I'm driven.

447
00:19:50,085 --> 00:19:53,805
It feels like that's where I
feel like my passion lies more.

448
00:19:54,554 --> 00:19:56,564
because they can't find you.

449
00:19:56,685 --> 00:19:57,195
You have to

450
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find them.

451
00:19:58,215 --> 00:19:58,514
Right.

452
00:19:58,514 --> 00:20:00,764
And like, how can you help
people if you don't go out?

453
00:20:00,764 --> 00:20:04,004
Like, you know, speak up
and speak out and reach out.

454
00:20:04,010 --> 00:20:04,554
Right?

455
00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:04,845
Right.

456
00:20:04,935 --> 00:20:05,385
And so

457
00:20:05,385 --> 00:20:07,274
it's about being in the room.

458
00:20:07,274 --> 00:20:07,814
Proximity.

459
00:20:07,814 --> 00:20:09,915
There is power in proximity.

460
00:20:09,919 --> 00:20:10,725
We know that, right?

461
00:20:10,730 --> 00:20:10,875
Mm-hmm.

462
00:20:10,955 --> 00:20:11,195
. Mm-hmm.

463
00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:15,945
. And so why aren't we as called
to be in the rooms more than

464
00:20:15,945 --> 00:20:17,655
those who are searching, right?

465
00:20:17,655 --> 00:20:18,375
Who are, yeah.

466
00:20:18,975 --> 00:20:20,865
Broken and don't know how to get to us.

467
00:20:20,955 --> 00:20:21,254
Yes.

468
00:20:21,254 --> 00:20:23,155
And so we are failing.

469
00:20:24,540 --> 00:20:28,215
, every time we are not pulling and
passionate out our call, we are

470
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failing those who are falling behind.

471
00:20:30,435 --> 00:20:36,345
And I feel more, um, of the whistleblower,
of the one to like put it in a different

472
00:20:36,350 --> 00:20:40,185
lens, in a different perspective
because I don't think it's their

473
00:20:40,185 --> 00:20:43,875
fault and how to find us, I think it's
ours and why we're not finding them.

474
00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,890
I have goosebumps everywhere.

475
00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:48,090
Oh my gosh.

476
00:20:48,090 --> 00:20:52,880
Like I'm fired up because this just
lights a fire under my ass, honestly,

477
00:20:52,885 --> 00:20:57,240
because it's something that, I mean,
I wrote this on a whiteboard four

478
00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,480
years ago that I wanna use my light.

479
00:21:01,044 --> 00:21:03,750
and shine it brightly so that I
can help others light up, right?

480
00:21:03,750 --> 00:21:06,659
Like I wanna be that candle
that lights the next candle.

481
00:21:06,780 --> 00:21:09,990
Like that causes the ripple
That just helps other people.

482
00:21:09,990 --> 00:21:13,110
Like that is so much what I wanna
do is just to reach those people.

483
00:21:13,110 --> 00:21:17,000
And so you saying this is
essentially like your solution is.

484
00:21:18,015 --> 00:21:21,645
To, to get everybody else who has also
had this calling to stand the fuck up

485
00:21:21,645 --> 00:21:23,115
and let's shout it from the rooftops.

486
00:21:23,115 --> 00:21:25,065
Like, let's get ourselves
out there and say it.

487
00:21:25,335 --> 00:21:29,415
And you know, I think the biggest
thing too is that us, um, and

488
00:21:29,420 --> 00:21:31,035
others like us, it's fear.

489
00:21:31,035 --> 00:21:32,505
Like we're afraid to shout it out.

490
00:21:32,505 --> 00:21:35,985
We're afraid it to be condemned by other
ideologies or other people that are

491
00:21:35,985 --> 00:21:38,175
like, oh, you know, you know, whatever.

492
00:21:38,325 --> 00:21:42,105
Because people like boxes and they like
things to fit and it's like, I feel like.

493
00:21:43,215 --> 00:21:46,784
a lot of us are about breaking
those boxes and, and acceptance.

494
00:21:46,784 --> 00:21:47,175
Right.

495
00:21:47,175 --> 00:21:50,895
And that there is no, like, you
have to prove yourself, right?

496
00:21:50,895 --> 00:21:53,895
Like you don't have to do X,
y, Z in order to be loved.

497
00:21:53,895 --> 00:21:54,135
Right?

498
00:21:54,135 --> 00:21:55,725
Like you are just loved and Right.

499
00:21:55,814 --> 00:21:59,774
Um, and so I think there
is this, like, this fear.

500
00:21:59,780 --> 00:22:00,554
I mean, I know for me too.

501
00:22:00,554 --> 00:22:00,615
Yeah.

502
00:22:00,675 --> 00:22:01,304
Like even.

503
00:22:02,115 --> 00:22:06,135
You know, launching the podcast was
a big deal for me, um, because it,

504
00:22:06,135 --> 00:22:08,805
but it's also so freeing and it's
amazing cuz you kind of just get to

505
00:22:08,805 --> 00:22:10,455
say whatever the fuck you want and

506
00:22:10,455 --> 00:22:10,695
Exactly.

507
00:22:11,445 --> 00:22:11,795
be

508
00:22:11,795 --> 00:22:12,705
unapologetic about it.

509
00:22:12,705 --> 00:22:14,655
The people will listen that want to.

510
00:22:14,655 --> 00:22:18,705
And, um, but it is a way to get
out there and, you know, um,

511
00:22:18,710 --> 00:22:19,785
so it's like a start, right?

512
00:22:19,790 --> 00:22:20,415
It's a start.

513
00:22:20,415 --> 00:22:25,095
And, and I think you have like, you're
so onto to something with that, like

514
00:22:25,095 --> 00:22:29,385
that is so big and so powerful and
just like I said, that just totally.

515
00:22:29,790 --> 00:22:32,710
Lit me up everywhere cuz it's
like, yes, yes, yes, yes.

516
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:33,120
Right.

517
00:22:33,660 --> 00:22:34,230
you can do this.

518
00:22:34,230 --> 00:22:37,560
Like please like keep going
out there and um, Yeah.

519
00:22:37,590 --> 00:22:38,190
So just,

520
00:22:38,370 --> 00:22:42,210
yeah, it's, it's powerful I think,
and I'm a visual like you are, right?

521
00:22:42,210 --> 00:22:45,750
So I feel like as you were, um,
you were talking about seeing the

522
00:22:45,750 --> 00:22:47,790
actual like light up, so your mm-hmm.

523
00:22:48,360 --> 00:22:49,320
light is igniting, right.

524
00:22:49,325 --> 00:22:50,190
These candles to go.

525
00:22:50,370 --> 00:22:54,000
So part of even, you know, my
personal movement, uh, you know,

526
00:22:54,004 --> 00:22:56,850
that I've been working on kind of
in the background, uh, there's a.

527
00:22:57,650 --> 00:23:01,160
and there's a visual of the
light of love of one that then

528
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:02,960
calls out all the other lights.

529
00:23:03,020 --> 00:23:05,510
And it goes in like this triangle, right?

530
00:23:05,515 --> 00:23:07,580
This outdoor, like with no end.

531
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:08,330
Mm-hmm.

532
00:23:08,410 --> 00:23:10,130
. But that's the ignition that we need.

533
00:23:10,135 --> 00:23:12,260
That's the, the igniter, the starter fuel.

534
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:17,510
But what I, what I feel in the fear
aspect that you were talking about,

535
00:23:17,570 --> 00:23:22,790
because it's very real for me as
well, it was, um, was that perfect.

536
00:23:22,790 --> 00:23:27,360
Love casts out all fear.

537
00:23:28,950 --> 00:23:29,595
Meanings true.

538
00:23:30,885 --> 00:23:35,715
I perfectly the best to my ability.

539
00:23:36,195 --> 00:23:41,264
Love me through my Guide, through
my source, through God, right?

540
00:23:41,355 --> 00:23:47,895
What that is, and that is enough for me
to say I am not fearful to step forward.

541
00:23:49,125 --> 00:23:56,490
If I speak alone, I'll speak for the
many and I'm truly empowered that way

542
00:23:56,670 --> 00:24:02,940
to say I am no longer fearful of what
he or she may think, what they may

543
00:24:02,940 --> 00:24:07,170
put, you know, this round peg and like
they say in a square hole, whatever

544
00:24:07,170 --> 00:24:10,890
that is saying, but it's like you
can't sit baby in the corner no more.

545
00:24:10,890 --> 00:24:13,380
Like, yes, I'm out here, I'm coming out.

546
00:24:13,380 --> 00:24:14,010
Apologetic.

547
00:24:14,010 --> 00:24:18,270
Yes, I'm co, but with the biggest,
boldest, baddest, fearless.

548
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:24,210
I'm here to move and I'm here to
make a movement, and I'm here to

549
00:24:24,210 --> 00:24:28,380
keep loving in a different way
because the word's been abused.

550
00:24:28,740 --> 00:24:32,340
It's been, I don't know, I chopped up.

551
00:24:32,700 --> 00:24:35,940
I, it's been so mistreated.

552
00:24:36,300 --> 00:24:36,390
Mm-hmm.

553
00:24:36,635 --> 00:24:42,360
. Um, and I can't wait to heal that
world again and heal the word of love.

554
00:24:42,801 --> 00:24:47,481
Yeah, like what love really truly means
and what it means to actually action it

555
00:24:47,481 --> 00:24:49,791
out and how it is to show up for others.

556
00:24:50,121 --> 00:24:53,721
And you can't, to me, love
yourself and not love others.

557
00:24:54,051 --> 00:24:56,121
Um, and, and think you're gonna get.

558
00:24:56,631 --> 00:24:57,981
Pretty far in life, right?

559
00:24:57,981 --> 00:24:59,391
You can, there's success.

560
00:24:59,691 --> 00:25:02,391
There's, you know, the monetary,
there's other things, right?

561
00:25:02,396 --> 00:25:06,201
That it all, everybody, you know, from
a social media perspective puts on what

562
00:25:06,201 --> 00:25:08,361
ide what it ideally looks like, right?

563
00:25:08,401 --> 00:25:08,921
Right.

564
00:25:08,931 --> 00:25:14,391
But for me, you know, success from a
day standpoint is what life did I touch?

565
00:25:14,781 --> 00:25:16,221
What life did I uplift?

566
00:25:16,431 --> 00:25:17,691
How did I empower them?

567
00:25:17,961 --> 00:25:19,201
How did I make them feel?

568
00:25:19,811 --> 00:25:20,191
Right.

569
00:25:20,351 --> 00:25:23,946
And all of that is learning from
the back ends when I didn't make

570
00:25:23,946 --> 00:25:25,386
someone feel so good mm-hmm.

571
00:25:25,626 --> 00:25:31,896
, or that I did get into, um, an entitlement
mode or, you know, a positioning mode and

572
00:25:31,896 --> 00:25:33,846
I forgot that I was dealing with a human.

573
00:25:34,656 --> 00:25:34,956
Mm-hmm.

574
00:25:35,526 --> 00:25:37,476
, I forgot that I was dealing with a heart.

575
00:25:37,656 --> 00:25:41,756
When you're entrusted with people's
hearts, it's a powerful thing and you

576
00:25:41,756 --> 00:25:43,466
gotta be mindful and you gotta be careful.

577
00:25:44,666 --> 00:25:48,716
But having that understanding of like
mindfulness too, of how I love and how

578
00:25:48,716 --> 00:25:53,246
I make someone feel, and I don't ever
wanna feel a certain way, I would want

579
00:25:53,246 --> 00:25:54,926
never want to impose that on someone else.

580
00:25:55,616 --> 00:25:55,856
Yeah.

581
00:25:55,886 --> 00:25:56,096
Right.

582
00:25:56,186 --> 00:25:56,246
Yeah.

583
00:25:56,366 --> 00:26:00,626
And, and we are our worst critics
where we do our most self-sabotage.

584
00:26:00,631 --> 00:26:05,486
Nobody can criticize me more,
beat me up more than me, myself.

585
00:26:05,576 --> 00:26:05,816
Yep.

586
00:26:05,906 --> 00:26:06,206
Right?

587
00:26:06,326 --> 00:26:06,606
Mm-hmm.

588
00:26:06,691 --> 00:26:11,636
, and, and, and now it's like, now if
I have a moment, I'm not my proudest

589
00:26:11,636 --> 00:26:13,706
moment, I give myself the okay to.

590
00:26:14,591 --> 00:26:18,491
Get pissed off, you know, smash
a, b, a pillow or whatever on

591
00:26:18,491 --> 00:26:21,461
the bed, like whatever I have to
do and be like, I screwed that.

592
00:26:22,421 --> 00:26:23,131
I'm gonna own it.

593
00:26:23,201 --> 00:26:25,421
You know, like a big Yes,
big girl painting is on.

594
00:26:25,451 --> 00:26:25,931
Yes, exactly.

595
00:26:25,931 --> 00:26:26,291
I'm on it.

596
00:26:26,291 --> 00:26:28,931
I mess that up, but I'm gonna
fix it and I'm gonna do my best

597
00:26:28,961 --> 00:26:30,881
and it's then no longer on me.

598
00:26:31,331 --> 00:26:31,601
Right.

599
00:26:31,751 --> 00:26:32,141
You're exactly.

600
00:26:32,141 --> 00:26:32,291
Yep.

601
00:26:32,291 --> 00:26:36,341
Cause the key is that once you have
already, I feel like either asked

602
00:26:36,341 --> 00:26:39,011
for forgiveness or you kind of
like, you know, I'm, I'm forgetting

603
00:26:39,011 --> 00:26:42,761
that I'm leaving, I'm severing ties
bad relationship, whatever it is.

604
00:26:42,761 --> 00:26:45,931
And I know we can talk about all
those things, , but um, yeah.

605
00:26:46,001 --> 00:26:49,566
But it's like all, once you do all that,
you're like, I've done what I can do.

606
00:26:50,116 --> 00:26:51,311
Yeah, I'm releasing it.

607
00:26:51,311 --> 00:26:52,931
I can't sit there anymore.

608
00:26:53,111 --> 00:26:53,291
Yeah.

609
00:26:53,291 --> 00:26:55,061
It is what it is, essentially.

610
00:26:55,061 --> 00:26:55,151
Right.

611
00:26:55,261 --> 00:26:56,891
And then you just have to move
on and I've gotta move forward.

612
00:26:57,161 --> 00:26:57,581
Yes.

613
00:26:57,911 --> 00:27:01,571
Giving that confidence and
in yourself that permission.

614
00:27:01,781 --> 00:27:02,171
Mm-hmm.

615
00:27:02,621 --> 00:27:05,531
to yourself to be able to say, I got this.

616
00:27:05,711 --> 00:27:06,161
It's okay.

617
00:27:06,161 --> 00:27:06,251
Yep.

618
00:27:06,551 --> 00:27:07,361
I'm not perfect.

619
00:27:07,361 --> 00:27:08,471
No one is, right.

620
00:27:08,471 --> 00:27:08,472
Yeah.

621
00:27:08,477 --> 00:27:12,491
And people are flawed every day, but at
the end of the day, did I love myself?

622
00:27:12,551 --> 00:27:15,431
Did I, am I kind to myself when I mess up?

623
00:27:16,873 --> 00:27:19,423
nine times outta 10 people aren't Right.

624
00:27:19,573 --> 00:27:21,133
That's the hardest part, right?

625
00:27:21,133 --> 00:27:21,803
Is like, okay.

626
00:27:21,803 --> 00:27:21,963
Mm-hmm.

627
00:27:22,043 --> 00:27:24,793
kid can mess up and then they, you
know, they ask for forgiveness and

628
00:27:24,823 --> 00:27:28,393
you're, you're almost by, you're in a
different energy cuz you're, they're,

629
00:27:28,453 --> 00:27:30,003
you're fine the next day, right?

630
00:27:30,003 --> 00:27:30,004
Right.

631
00:27:30,009 --> 00:27:30,524
Or they're fine.

632
00:27:30,529 --> 00:27:31,843
The next moment you're
like, okay, come on.

633
00:27:31,848 --> 00:27:32,653
And you're loving on them.

634
00:27:32,863 --> 00:27:35,003
Like, and we can't do
that for ourselves, right?

635
00:27:35,513 --> 00:27:36,123
Mm-hmm.

636
00:27:36,613 --> 00:27:36,913
. Right?

637
00:27:36,913 --> 00:27:37,873
We can't forgive ourselves.

638
00:27:37,873 --> 00:27:38,713
We can't understand.

639
00:27:38,713 --> 00:27:41,603
Okay, that was a bad moment, a
bad day, a bad night, bad week.

640
00:27:42,158 --> 00:27:42,598
Okay,

641
00:27:42,598 --> 00:27:47,758
well, I literally just did a, I did a
podcast on this like two episodes ago.

642
00:27:47,788 --> 00:27:50,338
It, it's called Forgive You, but
that's literally what it was about,

643
00:27:50,343 --> 00:27:54,538
was about how we keep ourselves stuck
by not forgiving ourselves, right?

644
00:27:54,538 --> 00:27:57,568
Like we need to just, you know,
if we really mess up, you say,

645
00:27:57,568 --> 00:28:00,418
sorry, you do what you know,
and then you move on, right?

646
00:28:00,418 --> 00:28:01,798
You own it and you move on.

647
00:28:01,798 --> 00:28:04,708
Like, it's because if you, you
know, if you get stuck in that

648
00:28:04,708 --> 00:28:08,308
place, And again, you just let
you spiral all out and you're, you

649
00:28:08,308 --> 00:28:09,868
know, you're, you're lost again.

650
00:28:09,868 --> 00:28:10,438
It's like, nope.

651
00:28:10,498 --> 00:28:11,608
You gotta forgive yourself.

652
00:28:11,608 --> 00:28:12,028
Move on.

653
00:28:12,028 --> 00:28:15,198
And remember, you know, that
inner power, that inner love.

654
00:28:15,198 --> 00:28:15,768
I love.

655
00:28:16,338 --> 00:28:17,208
I love love.

656
00:28:17,208 --> 00:28:18,678
I love love, I love, I know.

657
00:28:18,678 --> 00:28:19,758
It's like so brilliant.

658
00:28:19,758 --> 00:28:20,028
So

659
00:28:20,868 --> 00:28:21,948
.
Yeah, I do.

660
00:28:22,038 --> 00:28:22,398
I do.

661
00:28:22,398 --> 00:28:22,668
Exactly.

662
00:28:22,668 --> 00:28:24,198
You can't say it in enough languages.

663
00:28:24,438 --> 00:28:25,818
You can't say it in enough.

664
00:28:26,158 --> 00:28:30,198
Um, You know, um, like
body, you know, um mm-hmm.

665
00:28:30,948 --> 00:28:32,088
signs or whatever.

666
00:28:32,358 --> 00:28:32,808
I know.

667
00:28:33,018 --> 00:28:37,998
Like it is a, it is how I feel
in your presence and how you

668
00:28:37,998 --> 00:28:40,038
make me feel when you leave it.

669
00:28:40,038 --> 00:28:40,398
Right.

670
00:28:40,403 --> 00:28:43,038
And that is something that
I feel like we are lacking.

671
00:28:43,038 --> 00:28:43,098
Yeah.

672
00:28:43,518 --> 00:28:45,598
We are lacking, lacking, lacking.

673
00:28:45,768 --> 00:28:49,598
And this world would be such a more
beautiful place if we all loved

674
00:28:49,778 --> 00:28:54,003
differently and not meaning the
way that people loved previously

675
00:28:54,003 --> 00:28:55,203
and how they abused the word.

676
00:28:55,203 --> 00:28:55,263
Yeah.

677
00:28:55,563 --> 00:28:59,463
But if we now have a new mindset
and a new understanding of what

678
00:28:59,463 --> 00:29:01,323
love should really look like Yeah.

679
00:29:01,383 --> 00:29:03,273
Uh, and how we should action it out.

680
00:29:03,363 --> 00:29:06,273
But I, I'll, I'm gonna say
this because it's so powerful.

681
00:29:06,903 --> 00:29:09,153
Thank you for being who
you are and your light.

682
00:29:09,153 --> 00:29:11,043
And you do have a calling
and I know we tabled it, but

683
00:29:11,043 --> 00:29:11,823
we're gonna come back to that

684
00:29:12,588 --> 00:29:18,798
But, um, you know, the other piece of
it is, is that I can't I can't explain

685
00:29:18,798 --> 00:29:22,518
enough how important it is for all of us
to come together and love in this way.

686
00:29:22,968 --> 00:29:27,198
Yeah, and the shift and the
movement that can happen when we do.

687
00:29:28,113 --> 00:29:28,308
. Right.

688
00:29:28,338 --> 00:29:32,058
And that we are allowed to love in
the way that we love and the best

689
00:29:32,058 --> 00:29:35,028
form of that, you know, that we know
how to love and we're taught how

690
00:29:35,028 --> 00:29:39,108
to love properly, then it's like,
then that just ignites the world.

691
00:29:39,288 --> 00:29:39,378
Mm-hmm.

692
00:29:39,618 --> 00:29:42,618
. And my goal is to continue
to lead and love, right.

693
00:29:42,618 --> 00:29:46,038
And be a servant leader of love, but
to make it, make sure it's one person

694
00:29:46,043 --> 00:29:48,858
at a time that no one gets left.

695
00:29:49,833 --> 00:29:50,043
Yeah.

696
00:29:50,073 --> 00:29:50,373
Right.

697
00:29:50,523 --> 00:29:52,563
No heart gets left behind.

698
00:29:52,923 --> 00:29:55,233
So it doesn't matter the
language, it doesn't matter,

699
00:29:55,233 --> 00:29:58,173
you know, the sign language, it
doesn't matter, the visual even.

700
00:29:58,503 --> 00:30:01,323
Um, if you can't see a human,
you can feel it, feel it.

701
00:30:01,413 --> 00:30:02,283
Mm-hmm.

702
00:30:02,289 --> 00:30:02,563
. Mm-hmm.

703
00:30:02,648 --> 00:30:03,003
, right?

704
00:30:03,003 --> 00:30:05,643
And so that's the, that's
really the story here.

705
00:30:06,483 --> 00:30:07,443
That's amazing.

706
00:30:07,743 --> 00:30:08,703
I love.

707
00:30:09,578 --> 00:30:10,278
I love it.

708
00:30:10,418 --> 00:30:11,588
I can't stop saying it.

709
00:30:11,593 --> 00:30:16,128
It's just so brilliant and you know, you
are such a beautiful person inside and

710
00:30:16,128 --> 00:30:21,798
out, and I think you are just doing such
amazingly wonderful, big things, right?

711
00:30:21,798 --> 00:30:24,468
And this is definitely a
big mission that you are.

712
00:30:25,368 --> 00:30:28,818
You know what I wanna say,
not spearheading, like Yeah.

713
00:30:28,818 --> 00:30:29,628
I mean, you know, right.

714
00:30:29,633 --> 00:30:31,128
Like you It's my personal charge.

715
00:30:31,128 --> 00:30:31,398
Absolutely.

716
00:30:31,748 --> 00:30:31,948
Yes.

717
00:30:31,953 --> 00:30:34,758
And it is absolutely beautiful.

718
00:30:34,758 --> 00:30:40,338
And you're, like I said, you're doing
big things and I'm so thankful, um,

719
00:30:40,458 --> 00:30:43,158
to have you on the podcast this week.

720
00:30:43,158 --> 00:30:46,608
This was just such a special
experience and I can't wait to

721
00:30:46,608 --> 00:30:49,588
do some more episodes with you
because I think we have Yeah, right.

722
00:30:49,588 --> 00:30:50,108
Let's do it.

723
00:30:50,118 --> 00:30:51,588
So much more to talk about.

724
00:30:52,438 --> 00:30:55,748
So, um, I think we'll end
it with that Sweet note.

725
00:30:55,808 --> 00:30:59,408
Um, and just, yeah, like I said,
what a powerful mission you're on.

726
00:30:59,498 --> 00:31:01,268
And thank, um, thank you.

727
00:31:01,268 --> 00:31:02,498
I'm so excited for you.

728
00:31:02,498 --> 00:31:08,608
And just, thank you again for being
here and, um, I, I mean, I hope you

729
00:31:08,608 --> 00:31:12,448
guys feel it too when you listen to
this whole conversation because you

730
00:31:12,453 --> 00:31:15,203
know, Energy knows no bounds, right?

731
00:31:15,203 --> 00:31:16,763
Like there is no time or space.

732
00:31:16,763 --> 00:31:21,863
And so even having this conversation,
Erica Marie is, you know, I don't know

733
00:31:21,868 --> 00:31:25,313
how 2000 miles away from me right now,
but there's still this connection with

734
00:31:25,313 --> 00:31:29,813
our, you know, speaking with each other
over, you know, the, the camera and stuff.

735
00:31:29,813 --> 00:31:33,383
Like, you can feel that energy, you
can feel Erica Marie's passion and her

736
00:31:33,383 --> 00:31:35,213
love is coming through in her words.

737
00:31:35,213 --> 00:31:39,113
And, um, so hopefully you guys can
feel that as you listen to this episode

738
00:31:39,113 --> 00:31:42,193
too, because there definitely is
this energy that's being cultivated.

739
00:31:42,208 --> 00:31:46,108
And, you know, just in her sharing
her story and her, her message

740
00:31:46,108 --> 00:31:50,368
and her mission, um, is powerful
and it's filled with love.

741
00:31:50,848 --> 00:31:54,988
So, Erica Marie, thank you
so much for being here.

742
00:31:55,228 --> 00:31:57,868
Um, I don't know if you wanna
shout out any way people can find

743
00:31:57,868 --> 00:31:59,548
you or follow you on social media.

744
00:31:59,598 --> 00:32:00,018
Yes.

745
00:32:00,268 --> 00:32:06,478
Um, social media on Instagram is I
am, uh, emarie underscore official.

746
00:32:06,568 --> 00:32:08,888
@iamemarie_official

747
00:32:09,518 --> 00:32:09,668
Yeah.

748
00:32:09,698 --> 00:32:10,268
Okay, great.

749
00:32:10,268 --> 00:32:11,128
And I can

750
00:32:11,128 --> 00:32:13,958
link it to websites and everything else
are all getting branded in to come.

751
00:32:13,958 --> 00:32:14,588
Uh, so Oh,

752
00:32:14,588 --> 00:32:15,248
that's so exciting.

753
00:32:15,248 --> 00:32:15,968
Lot's coming.

754
00:32:16,238 --> 00:32:16,358
Yeah.

755
00:32:16,358 --> 00:32:18,818
Well I'll keep it updated in
the description of the podcast.

756
00:32:18,823 --> 00:32:22,748
I'll also link her, um, Instagram
handle and then when she does get

757
00:32:22,748 --> 00:32:25,568
her new, um, website and everything
put up, I'll link it back.

758
00:32:25,718 --> 00:32:27,938
You know, I'll backlog it into
this episode and hopefully

759
00:32:27,938 --> 00:32:29,378
future episodes to come.

760
00:32:29,798 --> 00:32:31,958
Um, but thank you again
so much for coming.

761
00:32:32,168 --> 00:32:33,428
Um, you all know where to find me.

762
00:32:33,428 --> 00:32:37,713
I'm at Instagram and Facebook
@Chelsea.VanBuskirk or website

763
00:32:37,713 --> 00:32:41,463
is chelseavanbuskirk.com and I
will see you guys all next week.

764
00:32:42,033 --> 00:32:44,213
Peace . Bye.