21. New Year, Who Dis? Zero to 💯 real quick is NOT the way to go, let’s take it step by step this year.

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Hey, what's up everybody?

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It's Chelsea Van Buskirk
with the Heart AF podcast.

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Happy New Year 2023.

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We, here we doing it.

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Um, new Year.

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Who dis?

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That's the episode we're doing right now.

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Um, it's, it's, it's a new year, right?

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We got those resolutions going and
I just really had to talk about this

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because I know what it's like to have
all these big goals and all these things

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that you wanna do, and we try to do
everything all at once and we're going

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zero to a hundred real fucking quick.

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And you know, as much as I love
Drake in that song, like we

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actually need to slow it down.

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Okay.

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Um, doing too much.

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all at once too fast.

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It's gonna blow up.

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It never works.

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I'm telling you from experience, and
you've probably experienced it too,

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when you try to change too many things
at once or go full throttle right from

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the gate, it, it, it backfires, right?

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It just, it does.

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Um, and honestly, like this is the
time, like it's still winter, okay?

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Like it just became
winter a few weeks ago.

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So this is the time
actually to be in a season.

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Hibernation and slowing down and
actually taking time to reflect

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and actually check in with yourself
and see how you're feeling.

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And it is great to set intentions and
have goals and dream big, and I think

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you should do all of those things, but
I think it should be done in a strategic

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way where you can kind of slow down
and break things down into smaller

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little chunks so that you can focus in.

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, one little thing that you can start
implementing and get consistent with.

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Because that's how you're
gonna get results and that's

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how you're gonna succeed.

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And you know, I have talked
about manifesting before.

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That was on another episode that I will
link in the description of this one.

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And, um, one of the things with
manifesting that we talk a lot about

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is, um, seeing from the end, right?

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Um, , you'll see it when you believe it.

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Those types of things.

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And so that's why instead of, you
know, doing resolutions, I think it's

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a great idea to do vision boards.

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Um, I know a lot of other
people talk about vision boards.

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If you haven't done one
before, I suggest you do it.

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It's really fun.

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A way to kind of get into your,
create your creative side.

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You can go old school and try to find
some magazines and clip out pictures

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and words and things, but I actually
don't know anybody that still.

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A magazine subscription.

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I mean, I think some
doctor's offices still do.

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So if you have access and wanna do
like a physical cutting and clipping

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of magazines, if you can find
them, that's a great way to do it.

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Or I use Canva cause it's super easy.

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Um, they have a free version
and there's a lot of images you

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can still use on Canva for free.

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Um, you know, by using clip art and
typing out images and really just creating

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a poster that has, you know, keywords
that maybe are, um, something that

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you wanna like focus on for the year.

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Or, um, images of things that you want
to see yourself doing throughout the

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year and having that, making that and
creating that board for you and like

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putting it somewhere where you're looking
at it every day is just such a great

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way to keep your focus and keep you
like, kind of like your eye on the prize

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kind of a thing, but also getting you
in that mindset of like, you're seeing

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yourself already having these things and
achieving the things that you want, right?

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It's seeing from the end, it's knowing
that whatever you want is already here.

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It's, um, You know, having that belief,
right, like you're getting yourself

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in the mindset of this, this is
already, this is all attainable for me.

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This is everything that
I want to do and achieve.

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It's already here, it's already available.

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I just have to take the steps to do it.

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Right.

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It's, it's really having
that belief and seeing it.

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And so that's why I think vision boards
are a great resource, um, to really put

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your intentions out into the universe
for your, you know, yearly goals.

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I think it's a great time to really,
like I said, Take a minute and just

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kind of check in and actually breathe.

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You know, like, let's just
breathe together real quick.

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A little, little deep breath.

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because we just came off of
like this chaotic time where

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there's lots of stuff going on.

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I mean, for myself, I had
a lot of family in town.

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It was very busy.

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You know, we're doing lots of things and,
and now is a time where we're packing

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up all the Christmas decorations and
there's kind of this, um, sadness, right?

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Because it's like we're packing
up all the joy that we had.

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Um, we had.

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These weeks of anticipation and like
this buildup of that moment of the

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holidays, you know, whether it was like
Christmas or the New Year, like it's a

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buildup and now it's kind of over, right?

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And now, now we get a moment to just
breathe and relax, come back into

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ourselves and really reflect, take
in all the things that you may have

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experienced over the last, you know,
two weeks and really just come back to

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yourself and really getting clear on.

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What it is that you wanna
create for yourself this year?

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What is it that brings you more joy?

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What are the things that you can let
go of that don't bring you joy, that

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actually take up too much of your
energy, take up too much of your

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time, or are just toxic things that
you wanna just cut from your life?

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Like think about those things.

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And then the next part is like
getting a strategy together

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on like how you can implement.

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little things that can get you on this
trajectory of hitting these results

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or, you know, creating the things
that you wanna create in your life.

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And, and that's like the big piece
of the, of, of what I want this

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message of this episode to be is as
you're, you know, getting this idea

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of who you are and who you wanna be.

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Like, you don't have to
change everything right now.

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, right?

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Like, what are little small things that
you can do that you can implement to make

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tiny little shifts that when those sh
shifts, those little shifts are compacted

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over a consistent length of time that
you're, you're hitting your goals, right?

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Like you're that much closer to
getting what you want and, and seeing

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that it's there for you, right?

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Um, and another key piece to all this,
of course, is knowing that you deserve

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it and that you're a badass bitch.

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And I'll tell you, that's my mantra
for this year, for 2023, is you

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are a badass bitch and not just
me, like you, you listening my

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audience, you are a badass bitch.

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And I want you to remember that.

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And I want you to remember your
power and remember that you are

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totally worth it, that you deserve
to create everything that you want.

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And there are gonna be times in
our life where we are sad, not

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feeling great about ourselves,
just not feeling good or motivated.

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But I want you to take a moment and
remember that deep inside you is

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that badass bitch, and you're gonna
wake her up and be like, Hey, girl.

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Like, let's, let's get it.

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We gotta, we gotta get up and we gotta
like get ourselves motivated and get

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back up on our horse if we fall, right?

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Like that part of you is still within you.

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Even when you're not feeling
her, she's still there.

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So I wanna be here to remind you, that
is my goal this year is to keep reminding

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myself and then to keep reminding
you that that badass bitch is still

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within you and we just gotta tap in.

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Motherfuckers tap in.

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Right?

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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The song, if you guys get my
reference, hopefully you do.

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If you're my people, you get my
song references and that's great.

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So yeah.

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No, no.

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Zero to a hundred real fucking quick.

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Right?

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You know, as much as we love
Drake, like let's just, we gotta

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slow it down one step at a time.

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One small shift, and let me break it
down and give you some examples of this.

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So let's say you have a goal
to get more healthy and fit.

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Maybe you have some weight to lose and
you wanna, you wanna get healthy, right?

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The answer is not let's just cut out
all sugar and clean eating and I'm

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gonna work out seven days a week.

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I'm gonna set my alarm.

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We're gonna, we're gonna work out you
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And, um, you know, that's too much.

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Like you can't do everything all at once.

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Like start small.

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Like some things that you can do if you
wanna increase, like your activities,

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maybe just concentrate on how many
steps you're getting a day and aim for

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like a 10,000 step day count, right?

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And you can do that by parking
further away in parking lots

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when you go anywhere, right?

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Because you're getting more steps
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stairs when you have opportunity to
take the stairs versus the elevator.

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Like, so what if it's five floors?

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Like take your time.

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Or maybe just go all the way
down, like, or do a part way.

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There's ways to, you know, do little
changes of your day-to-day life, like

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things you're already doing in your
life, and you just make these little

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tweaks, like getting in these extra
steps when you have the opportunity, or

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let's say drinking more water, right?

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Like getting an extra
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So maybe now when you wake up, instead
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you're drinking a glass of water first.

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And then before you go to bed,
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water before you go to bed.

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Easy, simple thing.

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Something you're already doing.

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You're already waking up every day.

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You're already going to bed every night.

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So now just add a simple task of just
drinking an extra glass of water.

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Easy way to get some extra steps.

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You're getting extra water and
may, and you know, you're getting

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extra activity throughout the day.

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Um, let's say maybe you drink sugary
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Search for alternatives.

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So, um, have you guys
heard of that zevia Soda?

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Soda?

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It's like Z E V I A or
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It's like that soda
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So it's like zero or calories are low.

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Low calorie.

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Right.

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But they, they mimic
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So they have like root beer and Cola.

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And I think like grape soda and orange
soda, like fun flavors like that.

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So you can find things to swap out.

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So like, let's say if you normally
drink like Coke, maybe you drink the.

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Zevia like zero calorie Cola, and
then you're cutting out some calories

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still having like a soda type beverage
that you could enjoy or, you know,

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maybe switch and start drinking some
of those, uh, carbonated sparkling

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waters that are just carbonated waters
with flavors, that are zero calorie.

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Like there's ways to cut, make little
tweaks to your normal day-to-day life.

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So we that are not like
these huge changes right.

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They are these small little changes that
over time are going to get your results.

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So let's say you just focus
on the 10,000 steps, right?

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Drinking the extra water and cutting
out like the caloric beverages.

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And then I guarantee you in a month
time, your waste is going to be smaller.

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You're going to be feeling better.

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You're going to be, have more energy.

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So maybe that'll lead you to take on
some other new habits that you can

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incorporate in your day-to-day life.

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Like maybe the next step is then
going for a 20 minute walk each day.

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Like there's little things that you
can do where you don't have to go

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changing everything all at once,
because then it's not sustainable.

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Then you're going to crash and burn
because you're going to get burnt out.

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Right.

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Like you have to make changes,
like changes that you want.

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To make like when you're really creating.

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A huge change in your life, right?

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Like if you're really trying to
like have this transformation,

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you have to think about it in
terms of what can you do longterm?

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Like what's sustainable, what are
things that I can actually do, but.

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Not just do for a short period of time
that I can actually do long-term right.

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So that's why you want to take these
big dreams you have, or these big

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goals and break it down into small
little chunks and break it down into

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small little shifts that you can make
and then do the work consistently.

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And then again, give yourself time.

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Enough time to actually get results,
because I feel like the other time

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where we're failing or not getting
where we want to go is we give up.

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Right.

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The only way you can fail at
anything is when you give up, right.

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Things might not always go as planned.

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It doesn't mean you have
to change your goal.

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Just maybe you tweak a few things
or change your direction or change

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the way you're doing things.

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And still can get you
to where you want to be.

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And the other thing you have
to keep in mind is there's this

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thing called divine timing, right?

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So you have to think about the
things that you really want and that.

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Like how ready you are to
actually get what you want.

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Right?

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Like, what are you showing?

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Like, how are you showing up for yourself?

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How are you, um, you know, making
yourself available to receive the

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things that you want to receive and
what kind of signals are you giving

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the universe and what kind of work
are you actually doing for yourself?

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And what changes are you
really ready to make?

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And what things are really aligned with
how your life is in this exact moment.

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And really see how the universe is kind of
talking back to you and letting you know,

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like, you know, sometimes things aren't.

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Like things that maybe you
want, maybe it's not the right

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fit for right this second.

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Maybe it's the right fit for down the
road or when you kind of show up and

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make some other changes and then maybe
you're ready to receive certain things.

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Um, so there's like a lot of
different little pieces that come

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into making the puzzle fit correctly
for those goals or dreams that you have.

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But the biggest thing I want to instill
in you is to not give up, right?

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Like know that you're more than
capable . Of achieving your dreams and

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that you are worth receiving whatever
you want to receive and creating

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in whatever you want to create.

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Like it's, it is available for you.

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And it's really just getting all
these little pieces to fit together.

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And really showing up for yourself
and tapping into that bad-ass

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bitch of your, within you, right?

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Like knowing that you are capable.

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And then doing the work and
then staying consistent with it.

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And again

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Allowing divine time to do its thing.

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Right.

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Like knowing that it might,
it's going to take time, right?

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Like it's change.

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Doesn't happen overnight.

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Right.

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It just doesn't.

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Um, You know, I think sometimes I have.

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People in my sphere, right.

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Who may know how me and my husband, or are
kind of at a successful point in our life.

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Right?

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Like we have multiple investment
properties and my husband

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has a thriving business, but.

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We started from the bottom.

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Like I'm going to reference
Drake again because he is fucking

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awesome, but we started from
the bottom and now we're here.

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Like we literally started from the
bottom and, you know, I think I heard.

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It was actually my father-in-law.

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He made a comment about my husband, how
everything he touches turns to gold.

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And I said, yeah, but the thing
is, he's not afraid of doing work.

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Like he's not afraid of like doing things.

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And he also doesn't give
up when things get hard.

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Like he literally started his business.

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With like a neighbors bronco that
he bought for like 500 bucks, right?

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Like this 1980 Bronco, like
just like a beast, right.

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But $500 he spent on this vehicle, bought
some pressure washing equipment and

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some equipment for, um, to start a hood
cleaning business, literally went door

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knocking to restaurants, getting clients.

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Right.

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And he was doing the work.

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He was doing the hood cleaning.

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He was staying up all night, doing the
cleanings, like building up his business.

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Right.

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Like.

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He that's how he started his business.

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And now, you know, what's like, what?

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15 years later?

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I think no older than that.

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Hold on.

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Let me do some math.

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Holy shit.

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Okay.

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Hold on.

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It's almost 20 years.

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He's been doing this for 18 years.

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Like.

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2004, right?

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Like I think it was like mid
2004 when he started his company.

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And now it's 2023, so we're,
we're coming up on 19 years this

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year that he's had this business.

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So that's a long time.

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Can you like.

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Sticking with something for 19 years.

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Do you think that he had a dream
of having a hood cleaning business?

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No, but he had a dream that he wanted to
be successful and run his own business.

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And this was what, the thing that kind
of fell into his lap and he ran with it.

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He didn't give up things got hard.

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He has had partners that
have stolen from him.

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He has had people like he's
had of course a lot of.

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You know, like there's just so many
things that have gone wrong throughout

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his 19 years in this business.

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Right.

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But it has grown.

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He's always learning.

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He's always implementing.

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He's always trying to figure
out how to be a better leader.

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And how to help his employees grow.

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And I don't even know how many
employees he has at this point,

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but he's got like, he has a whole
fire suppression side of things.

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Now it's hood cleaning
and fire suppression.

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He does a lot of commercial work
and you know, like he's just grown

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his business exponentially and
it keeps growing year over year.

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But again, it started
from the ground, right?

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It didn't, it didn't just
become successful overnight.

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Like we're talking 19 years
to get to the point where he

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is now and it's it's growing.

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Right.

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And each new thing that we take
on, like with the investment

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properties, we took a gamble.

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We.

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We budgeted it.

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And we saved to start our investing
journey and investing in real estate.

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And that was something that,
again, it was something that

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snowballed, but it took time.

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And it's like people see where we're
at now, but they don't understand the

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sacrifices that we made and the hard
work and the discipline that we did

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day in and day out for a long period
of time to get us to where we are now.

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And that's the kind of thing with success.

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Is that.

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You know, you start getting these little
wins, these little successes, and that

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kind of helps propel you forward to like
keep putting in more and, and then you get

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more back and it's like a snowball thing.

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Right.

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But you have to be willing to do the work.

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And, I'm going to get vulnerable
and tell you some things about me.

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Um, right now, I'm at the heaviest weight
I've been at since I've been pregnant or

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shortly after giving birth, like I'm, I
finally weighed myself a week ago and I

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have shared with you on previous episodes.

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How I have a history of
a binge eating disorder.

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Like I've been really extreme with
dieting and, you know, Like, I

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struggle with body image is what it is.

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I struggle with body image and I know
how to make my body look a certain

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way if I'm really strict, right?

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Like if I'm obsessive and strict
but then that's not sustainable.

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Right.

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So then I usually end
up, I can't keep it up.

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There's a time point in time
where it's just too much.

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And then I ballooned back up and
it's like this yo-yo thing, right?

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Any yo-yo dieter can relate to this story.

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And, um, so I've gone through some therapy
this last year with the binge eating.

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And, you know, learning how to
actually eat, to nourish my body, like

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healing my relationship with food.

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And also healing my relationship with
my body and you know, working out

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as a way to help and strengthen my
body, like not to punish it, which

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is a lot of what I was doing before.

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And, um, so I did decide to.

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Um, hire and partner, a coach, um, who
is, um, it's like a mixture of life

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coach and fitness coach type of program
that works on sustainable habits, right?

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In the health and fitness and
really helping me to get to my

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goal, but in a sustainable way.

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So it's something that
is exactly what I needed.

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And it's kind of scary but it's also
something that I really need because

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I thrive when I have somebody that
can help, help hold me accountable

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that can help, um, you know, give me
a kick in the pants when I need it.

393
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Like, give me that motivation
when I'm feeling low.

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Um, and then to also just make adjustments
with the ebbs and flows of life, because.

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You need something that's sustainable
that you can do day in and day

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out again, like that's the thing
is you have to do something that

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you can do you know, consistently.

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Cause consistency over time is the
only thing that's going to get you

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the results that you want to see.

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And, you know, that's something that
I know, but it's all, it's hard.

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I'm not saying it's not easy, it's hard.

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And it does take discipline and the, the
hardest part about it and the discipline

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that you really need is the consistency.

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That's where you have to be disciplined
is being consistent because no

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day is ever going to be perfect.

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But it's about waking back up
and trying again and tapping into

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that bad-ass bitch within you.

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Right.

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And like coming forward and
like keep moving forward.

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That's really the trick in
all of this is consistency.

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Okay.

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And like sticking with
things when they get hard.

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And, um, that's how we've had success
in anything that, you know, me and my

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husband have done business wise and
then on a personal level, that's how

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I've been successful in other ways.

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And so right now I'm working on doing this
health and fitness thing in a consistent

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way to get me the results I want.

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Um, You know, my big issue is around food.

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Like I use food as a coping mechanism.

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Um, the holidays are a
really hard time for me.

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, And I in holidays, guess what has a
lot of opportunity to eat extra foods

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00:18:29,563 --> 00:18:31,153
that are high calorie dense, right.

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00:18:31,153 --> 00:18:35,203
That have a lot of extra sugar and a lot
of, um, you know, those empty calories

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where, um, they don't fill you up.

425
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Right.

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00:18:37,723 --> 00:18:41,413
So you can eat a higher quantity, but
then they're filled with a lot of excess,

427
00:18:41,413 --> 00:18:43,873
you know, sugars and things that just.

428
00:18:44,353 --> 00:18:46,723
You know, your body's just
not going to use, right?

429
00:18:46,723 --> 00:18:50,203
Like it's not, um, A great
source of fuel for your body.

430
00:18:50,203 --> 00:18:50,623
Right?

431
00:18:50,623 --> 00:18:54,913
And so, like I said, I'm at a
point where all my pants are really

432
00:18:54,913 --> 00:18:57,853
tight and uncomfortable and it's
kind of like enough is enough.

433
00:18:57,853 --> 00:19:00,103
I have to be proactive and I
have to take care of myself.

434
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And so.

435
00:19:01,453 --> 00:19:03,283
That was a big jump and
it's hard to ask for help.

436
00:19:03,313 --> 00:19:03,883
I'll be honest.

437
00:19:04,183 --> 00:19:06,883
You know, especially with knowing
everything I know about health

438
00:19:06,883 --> 00:19:09,783
and fitness, I feel stupid or I'm
a failure for asking for help.

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00:19:10,413 --> 00:19:13,923
But that's why I'm telling you guys
this story, because it's totally

440
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fine to ask for help, right?

441
00:19:15,393 --> 00:19:17,643
Like there's nothing wrong
with getting help when you

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00:19:17,643 --> 00:19:18,873
need it and where you need it.

443
00:19:19,143 --> 00:19:21,603
Like, there's nothing wrong
with having a support system

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00:19:21,603 --> 00:19:24,033
or having that extra guidance.

445
00:19:24,033 --> 00:19:26,403
Like there's nothing wrong with
that and it doesn't make you weak.

446
00:19:26,673 --> 00:19:27,963
It doesn't make you stupid.

447
00:19:28,323 --> 00:19:30,693
Like everybody needs that.

448
00:19:30,993 --> 00:19:34,323
Like, even if it's not somebody
you hire, but just having a best

449
00:19:34,323 --> 00:19:38,043
friend, having somebody that you can
confide in, that's going to help, you

450
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know, build you up and support you.

451
00:19:40,263 --> 00:19:43,863
Because again, life isn't always
like sunshine and rainbows, right?

452
00:19:43,893 --> 00:19:47,103
Like there's the clouds come in
and cover the sun time to time.

453
00:19:47,103 --> 00:19:47,433
Right.

454
00:19:47,433 --> 00:19:50,763
It rains, it pours it hails, snows, right?

455
00:19:51,003 --> 00:19:54,180
Like all that stuff comes and
you just got to stick it out and

456
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breathe and keep moving forward.

457
00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:55,740
Right.

458
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So I hope everyone has had a
fabulous little holiday season.

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I took a little break and I'm excited
to come back this year with the

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podcast and really provide some.

461
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Uh, good content.

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I hope to have some more interview
episodes coming up this year and

463
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just really providing some helpful,
valuable insights and tips for you guys.

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and I'd love to hear from you.

465
00:20:21,270 --> 00:20:24,030
Uh, I want to know what your
intentions are for this year.

466
00:20:24,030 --> 00:20:27,270
Like, what are things that
you want to reach for, or

467
00:20:27,270 --> 00:20:28,350
create in your life this year?

468
00:20:28,350 --> 00:20:29,070
Will you tell me?

469
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:30,030
I really would love to know.

470
00:20:30,030 --> 00:20:33,930
I really, that, you know, it'll help
me to, to help keep you motivated.

471
00:20:33,930 --> 00:20:37,050
Maybe some of the things that you're
intending to create this year will help

472
00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,810
give me what I can create content around.

473
00:20:39,810 --> 00:20:40,140
Right.

474
00:20:40,140 --> 00:20:41,250
So please let me know.

475
00:20:41,250 --> 00:20:43,650
I would love like, Yes.

476
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:47,160
Part of me doing my podcast is for me
to just fucking run my mouth because

477
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:48,570
I need to, and I can't stop it.

478
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:52,770
But the other big piece of me running
my mouth is to somehow change someone

479
00:20:52,770 --> 00:20:56,520
else's life is to somehow say something
that will click with somebody in a way

480
00:20:56,520 --> 00:21:00,300
that relates to them that speaks to
them that you know, I get you, right?

481
00:21:00,300 --> 00:21:03,690
Like, I feel like there's a
certain type of person that.

482
00:21:04,380 --> 00:21:06,000
Can hear what I have to say.

483
00:21:06,060 --> 00:21:06,810
And so.

484
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:08,970
I I'm here for that person.

485
00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:10,380
I'm here for you, right?

486
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,810
I'm here for you because I get you, right.

487
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:14,670
Like I get you and I'm speaking to you.

488
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:18,600
So I would love to hear back from you.

489
00:21:18,630 --> 00:21:20,490
Please give me a DM.

490
00:21:21,250 --> 00:21:22,240
Slide in my DMS.

491
00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:22,600
Right.

492
00:21:22,810 --> 00:21:25,000
Um, Instagram or Facebook.

493
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:28,630
Handle is @chelsea.vanbuskirk
or you can find me on my

494
00:21:28,630 --> 00:21:32,830
website at chelseavanbuskirk.com
there's a contact me form there.

495
00:21:33,070 --> 00:21:37,480
Um, like I said, with my year mantra
for 2023, is you a bad ass bitch?

496
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,130
Well, there is a song.

497
00:21:39,370 --> 00:21:39,980
Called Sis!

498
00:21:39,980 --> 00:21:40,690
You a badass bitch.

499
00:21:40,690 --> 00:21:41,500
I've talked about it before.

500
00:21:41,500 --> 00:21:42,940
It's on my mantra playlist.

501
00:21:43,270 --> 00:21:46,210
Um, that you can also get on my website
and I'll definitely link that in the

502
00:21:46,210 --> 00:21:47,920
description of this podcast as well.

503
00:21:48,130 --> 00:21:50,350
Look, I'm going to sign off because
I know it's getting long-winded,

504
00:21:50,350 --> 00:21:55,120
but, um, I almost said peace be with
you, but, um, And also with you.

505
00:21:55,390 --> 00:21:59,840
So anyway, Um, yeah, we're gonna,
we're gonna keep moving, 2023

506
00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:00,710
here we go.

507
00:22:01,010 --> 00:22:03,080
Remember, don't do everything all at once.

508
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:03,500
Right?

509
00:22:03,650 --> 00:22:06,230
Take little, little, little steps,
little shifts that you can do

510
00:22:06,230 --> 00:22:07,520
to get you where you want to go.

511
00:22:07,850 --> 00:22:11,780
Um, and you know, don't try to
go zero to a hundred, right?

512
00:22:11,780 --> 00:22:13,580
Like, don't go, doesn't
have to be real quick.

513
00:22:13,580 --> 00:22:14,870
You can go zero to one, right.

514
00:22:14,870 --> 00:22:15,650
And then one to two.

515
00:22:15,770 --> 00:22:16,130
Okay.

516
00:22:16,550 --> 00:22:16,940
All right.

517
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:20,480
Well, I'll see you guys next
week and have a good one.

518
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:22,070
And enjoy yourself.

519
00:22:22,100 --> 00:22:24,110
Like don't forget to
check in with your energy.

520
00:22:24,140 --> 00:22:25,310
Take a deep breath.

521
00:22:25,340 --> 00:22:26,030
Ha.

522
00:22:26,180 --> 00:22:26,570
Right.

523
00:22:26,930 --> 00:22:27,170
Okay.

524
00:22:27,170 --> 00:22:27,980
And I'll see you guys next week.

525
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:28,550
Okay.

526
00:22:28,790 --> 00:22:29,180
Peace.