15. Do You, Boo!💋 How to get away from trying to live up to others expectations of who you should be

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Hey everyone.

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What's up.

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It's Chelsea VanBuskirk
with the Heart AF podcast.

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Hope everyone is doing
well in the world today.

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For those of you who don't know my
main job aside from being a mom of

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three and a lovely , trophy wife.

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I'm just kidding.

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But as a housewife who runs a household
and does most of the stay at home

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mom type of things, I also manage
all of our real estate investments.

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So me and my husband have been
investing in real estate since 2014.

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And since then we have
accumulated quite a number of

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properties and I manage them all.

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We have a few local long-term
rentals and then we also have

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eight short-term rentals.

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That are nowhere near us.

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We have five properties on
the island of Maui in Hawaii.

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And we have three properties in Florida,
two in the Fort Walton beach Destin area.

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And one new one that we just
closed on, in October in Kissimmee,

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which is right outside of Orlando.

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So close to Disney and
universal those, theme parks.

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Anyway, I manage them all.

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I manage them all from
our home in Colorado.

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So that's a big part of my day to day
is managing guests and making sure that

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everything's set up for, check-ins
when things go wrong or things need

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to be replaced communicating with our
cleaning team, our handyman and managing

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everything from the ground here.

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And, it's not the job I'm
most passionate about.

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I would say I do it because
it helps us out as a family.

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It is our second business.

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Second to my husband's
business that he started.

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But anyway, it's a job for me.

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Right.

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And, the thing is, what I really
like to do is I like speaking

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on this podcast, I like writing.

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I like working on my book
and I love helping people.

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And that's something I'm working
on doing and transitioning out

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of managing the properties and
getting to the point where I can pay

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somebody else to manage them for me.

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so, one thing I want to talk
about is allowing yourself to let

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your wants and needs be heard and
acknowledging the things that you

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want to do in your life and really
asking yourself those questions.

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Like, am I doing things because
it's what people are expecting of

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me or is this something that I'm
doing because I want to do them.

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And I feel there's a fine line because
obviously we have bills that need to

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be paid and we all have to have jobs.

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And sometimes the work we do may not
be super fulfilling or something that

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we love doing, but I feel like no
matter what job you do, there's always

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going to be parts of it that are going
to be hard or challenging, or that

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may not be your favorite thing to do.

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That's a part of any job you do.

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But I do think it's also important
to pay attention to things

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that you're passionate about.

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And I don't think it's silly to have
dreams and ambitions to find a job

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that can pay you for doing work that
you love, that is fulfilling, that

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is something you're passionate about.

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I don't think that there's anything
wrong with pursuing a job or a business

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that can provide those things for you.

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So never stop trying to
accomplish and achieve that.

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But what I was getting at is, you
know, sometimes I share that we

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own these properties and I fear
sometimes sharing it because I don't

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want it to come off as a brag post.

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Most of the time I'm sharing our booking
link because obviously we want bookings.

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Because that's how we make money is
when people rent out our properties.

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But, possessions don't mean shit.

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Okay.

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It doesn't matter what you accumulate.

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You can't take it with you
when you go, accumulations do

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not determine your success.

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And we live in this culture that is
all about our titles, what we have and,

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accumulations and it's all materialistic.

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And the truth of it is
none of that shit matters.

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Like there's so many people that
drive themselves into debt that, put

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on this facade of being successful
when really they're just racking up

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credit card debt, or really, they
don't have what they're portraying

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they do, you know?

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And it's all ego based.

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Right.

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And it brings.

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Me back to this whole
part of being authentic.

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And really being who we want to be,
because it's something we want and

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not what other people want for us.

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Actually my aunt shared this amazing
quote because it reminded her of me.

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And I thought, yes, spot on.

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This is exactly what I touch on in
a lot of these podcasts and in

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my posts and things like that.

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But the quote , shared with me was
'it's not hard to be who you are.

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What's hard is trying to stop being who
you think others want you to be.' And

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that just hits the nail on the head.

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So perfectly said,
because that's exactly it.

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The hardest thing is really to allow
yourself to be true to yourself and allow

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yourself to not fit these molds of who
you think other people want you to be.

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And that can be really hard because
a lot of times the people that

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are influencing us or are placing
these roles on us or expectations

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of who we should be are our parents.

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They can be our spouses.

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They can be, our religious group,
like these are big things, right?

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Like big, hard people
to really stand up to.

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And I know because I've had
to do it and it's hard.

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Like you do risk a lot.

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And I do know people one I'm going
to hopefully bring on the podcast

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soon about her transition of leaving.

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Her church.

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And in doing that.

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She may not ever talk to her mom again.

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That's a huge risk.

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Right.

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But she knows deep down that being part
of this group is not right for her.

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She has found that it doesn't fit right.

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She's in this cage.

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Right.

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And she's trying to free herself to
allow herself that freedom to break

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out of this mold that she's been,
fit into and breaking free from

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that is going to come with risks.

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It's hard.

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And she's really at this crossroads
of like, you know how she's

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going to be able to move forward
with staying true to herself

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and, that's real and that's hard.

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And people are doing that every day.

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People are up against, you know,
coming out with their sexuality, to

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their family or within their church
organizations cause that's, against

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those rules or whatever it is like.

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People are afraid of losing their
family connections by being the true.

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Versions of themselves by being fully
authentic, by standing up against

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what other people think you should be.

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And.

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My job, my vision, my message is to help
those feel empowered, to know that even

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if you do these hard things and face these
risks that are true and real and painful.

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That once you break through
and get through the hard part.

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There are going to be other people in your
life that will love you just as you are.

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And not only will you have people
physically here that will be here to

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support you in the physical world,
but you have a whole spiritual

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team in this whole other layer.

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You have this whole
team of love and light.

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That's here to help and support
you and guide you through the

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transition through that leveling up
process, where you can get to live

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this life as your truly authentic
self shining your light brightly.

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Living joyously and living free from these
constructs of pretending and stressing

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yourself, trying to mold and fit yourself
into these boxes that just aren't you.

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So again, I thought that
was a beautiful quote.

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That really talks a lot about my message.

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I feel like.

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That is heart as fuck, right?

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Like that is what it's all about.

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It's about going through those hard
things, but staying true to your heart

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and your soul and your higher self.

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And sometimes we can start to blame
other people or blame other factors for

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why we're caged, why we're still stuck
in these roles we don't want to be in.

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And.

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I think it's important to
ask yourself, let's see.

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I think I got some of these ideas
from Wayne Dyer's book excuses be gone?

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I'm pretty sure that's the book.

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I got it from.

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I read all of his books and
listened to all of his talks.

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It's from Wayne Dyer.

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So we'll just keep it there.

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He had a conversation about who you're
blaming for the way your life is going.

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And I think this falls in line with
that, like what expectations, whose

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expectations are you living up to that is
keeping you in this low vibrational state.

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That's keeping you in this
watered down version of yourself.

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That's keeping you caged
into who you really aren't.

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And he talked about, are you living
your life, trying to fulfill someone

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else's idea for you instead of
fulfilling your own ideas for yourself?

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And that's an important question
to ask yourself, like, are you

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working hard at fulfilling somebody
else's idea of who you should be?

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I know I did.

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I know I was working, trying to be this
overachieving real estate agent and

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mom, and, trying to have dinners on the
table every night and be like this person

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that just catered to my husband and
my family, and then also like work and

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make a good name for myself in my job.

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And then I got the short end of the stick.

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I was miserable.

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I was not taking care of myself.

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I didn't want to be waiting on
everybody else, hand and foot.

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I had children that were fully capable
of doing things for themselves,

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but I was still stuck in like that
expectation that I was supposed to

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be doing everything for everybody.

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And I had to finally break
free and say, Um excuse me.

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No, this isn't what I
really would like to do.

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This is what I think I have to do.

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This is what I feel like you're expecting
of me, but I'm not okay with it.

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This isn't what I want to do.

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I need more collaboration.

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I need like a family unit.

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I can't take on the responsibility
in doing everything for

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everybody in this household.

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Like everybody needs to step the
fuck up and each do their own part.

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Right?

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Like I'm only one person I shouldn't
be trying to take on all this stuff.

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And it's ridiculous that I feel like
there are still these expectations I

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mean, you see it in the media and
everything where like the mom or , the

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main, stay at home, adult in the
household is just supposed to take over

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and do all the things for everybody.

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And it's like, no, everybody has their
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and everybody should be doing their part.

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It should be a collective thing, right?

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Anyway.

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The other thing I wanted to
address going along with this is,

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Are you listening to your calling?

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Are you listening to what your
soul is telling you to do?

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Because for me it was
years of just knowing.

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I knew I needed to teach people.

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I knew I had this need to help people.

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And so I'm still here working and trying
to get this established so that I can

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finally follow my dreams through with
getting workshops put together and a

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curriculum put together to actually
help women go through a transformational

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process to where they can go through these
hard things to be more authentic and

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to be able to live life for themselves.

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And it's not done in a selfish way.

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It's not about being selfish.

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It's about being loyal to yourself.

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It's about self care.

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It's about being able to honor and
respect yourself enough to set boundaries.

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So that you can be taken care of so
that you can thrive and live your life

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authentically and not just conforming
all the time for everybody else, right?

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Like for everybody else's expectations.

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And following your heart, it's risky.

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There's going to be people
who aren't going to like it.

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When I had to stand up to my husband
and be like, Hey, sorry, I'm not

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gonna fully cater to you and take
care of your, every single need

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when you're a fully capable adult.

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He wasn't happy about that.

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I mean, come on.

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Would you be happy if you
had somebody that was fully

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catering to you for everything?

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Like, yeah, that sucks.

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no one's going to like to have that
taken away from them when they've been

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given this great gift for so long.

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It was a struggle and it was a change
that was not easy but we're better now.

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I mean, It . Took a lot of time and
a lot more communication, but I feel

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like my husband respects me so much
more now because I'm respecting myself

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and I'm setting boundaries and I'm
saying like, no, you can do that.

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And here's the thing is
I still love my husband.

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And, so I still will show up and I
will do things out of love for him and I

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will show him care and I will do things
that yes, he could do for himself,

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but I will do it for him out of love.

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Instead of doing it out of this,
like unrealistic expectation.

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Does that make sense?

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Like, there are ways to do things for
people and give yourself in a loving

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way to do it out of love, but it's
different than when you're doing it

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out of this obligation or needing to
prove your worth or, doing it because

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you feel like you have to, because
that's, what's expected of you.

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It's different if it's an expectation,
versus if it's something that you're

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genuinely giving like a compassionate way
of giving, there's a difference there.

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And I think it's an important
difference because again, you feel

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like you want to give versus something
that is an expectation or something

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that is coming from this lower
energy place, if that makes sense.

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One thing to think about is like,
When you think about who you are,

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are you thinking that Who you are,
is what you do or what you have?

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Because if who you are is what you do
and what you have, then when you aren't,

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or you don't have it, then you're not.

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Right.

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So if who you are, is based on the
house you live in or the car you drive,

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what happens if you lose your house or
your car or you not yourself anymore?

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Or what happens if, you place
all of your value on your title?

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You know, like what happens if something
changes and you're different, right?

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Like if I place all my value on being
a real estate agent, and now I'm not.

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Does that mean I'm not me?

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Does that mean I don't
have any value anymore?

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no, it doesn't.

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We are more than what we do.

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We are more than the possessions we have
and, all those things are ego-based,

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they're all these lower vibrational
energy things that really don't matter.

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Again, like they are things
that don't really matter.

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Okay.

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It's good to have dreams.

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. Like we all have bills to pay.

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We all have dreams and, it's
good to Be secure financially.

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And I think that's something that
everybody should strive for and being

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disciplined with their spending and,
making, investments for the future.

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Like, I think that's all needed.

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That's all, that's all good.

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And well, like that's all stuff that's,
needed living here in the physical world.

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Right?

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I'm not trying to cast down on
anybody who is out there being

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successful and achieving stuff.

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I mean, fuck, look at my husband.

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Like he has this business
and he's a hustler.

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Like he is.

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He just goes after it and he keeps
building and expanding his business.

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And, you know, he's the one that's
always pushing for adding more investment

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properties to add to our portfolio.

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He's definitely somebody that
is working for our future.

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And I don't think there's anything
wrong with that, like striving for

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goals or trying to accumulate stuff.

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I'm just saying.

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Accumulating stuff does not.

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Equal your worth.

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Like it is not what makes
you worthy as a person?

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Okay.

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Like you, as a person are valuable
and needed just the way you are.

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You don't have to accumulate
stuff to prove your worth.

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You don't have to neglect yourself
and give everything you have to

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everybody else to prove your worth.

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It's not about, the possessions.

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It's not about, the titles and
the achievements you make, that

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does not make you valuable.

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It's good to have goals
and to accomplish goals.

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That's great, but it's not
based on what you're worth.

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Right?

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Like

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I'm not better than the
homeless guy down the street.

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That's living under the
bridge over by my house.

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Okay.

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I don't think I'm better than that person.

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He is a human.

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He is struggling in his life.

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He's made choices in his
life to get him where he is.

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That's him, but that does not
make him less of a person than me.

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Okay.

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Like I'm not a higher person just
because he lives under a bridge.

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And I live in the house I l ive in.

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Okay.

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That's the point I'm trying to get
across too, is There isn't this

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hierarchy of people based on what your
title is or what your possessions are.

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We are all human.

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We all come from the same source.

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We are all connected.

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And

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the overall thing is, I just want
you to realize you are worthy.

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And that you have every right to
go after what you want in life.

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You have every right to be
your true, authentic self.

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And.

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Even though it's hard as fuck sometimes
to take that risk to fully come out

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as yourself and break through the
expectations that other people are

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placing on you, like it is so worth it.

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I honestly think that if I never
got the courage to figure out

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like my power and figure out what
I really wanted in my family

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environment and my home and my role.

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If I wasn't able to speak up
and make changes, I probably

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would have left my husband.

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I swear, I was so unhappy and so fed
up, even though I loved him and had

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no desire to break up my family, I was
miserable enough to want to walk away.

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And that's really sad to me now because
I can see how much we've grown since

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then and how much we have left to
grow and experience together as a

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family and as, my relationship with
my husband and like how that has grown

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and evolved and just gotten closer and.

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You know, to think that I could have
walked away and let that go because I

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couldn't speak up for myself and actually
set boundaries and learn how to be

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my authentic self within my marriage.

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And then have

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everything reflect back to me to
help encourage my continued evolvement

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and growth and going after what
I want, how I want my life to be.

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It's amazing.

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And I think other people can get
there too, and I feel like I shouldn't

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just paint this like rainbow picture
if you go through something hard.

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So let's say if you do go against
what your parents want for you and

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they decide to disown you and not talk
I mean, that's a, that's a true risk and

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you might, lose a relationship like that.

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And, it's sad and it's painful, but you'll
still find joy and you'll find those

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people that will fill in for your family.

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On the other side of that, right?

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Like when you make it through the
sadness and you can cut out the toxic,

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relationships that might be your own
parents, you'll be so much happier and

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at peace when you can truly be yourself.

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And again, then attract the right people,
the people that will truly love you

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for who you are and be there to support
you and be your family, even if it's

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not your blood family, you know, not
all of us get so lucky to have blood

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family that is really there for us.

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Like I know lots of people who've had
toxic parents and ways they've had

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to cut them out of their life because
they've had to protect themselves.

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You have to.

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I think I kind of got lucky in a way with
my mom passing when I was 22, because I

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never had to, set boundaries when I had
kids where I was an adult, like having to

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cut her off, she kind of did it for me by
making choices that ended her life early.

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And, I know it's sad and a
little, morbid for me to put it

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that way, but I mean, it's true.

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Like, I do feel a little bit of gratitude
that I didn't have to stand up to her

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and cut her off as an adult, or an older
adult, I guess you could say I did have

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to set a boundary and not have her at my
wedding because she was still alive when

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I got married to my husband and I had to

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Ask her not to be there because I knew
that having her there would have been

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toxic and it would have ruined my wedding.

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And, you know, she died six
months after I got married.

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So I was worried that she might
die at the wedding or overdose

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at the reception, like something.

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I just knew that there was gonna
be some kind of scene if she

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had been there.

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And so I had to.

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Say no.

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Again, the hard things are standing
up for yourself and learning to set

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boundaries and standing up bravely as your
truly authentic self and not conforming

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to fit other people's expectations of you.

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So really that's the message of today.

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I'm just really encouraging you.

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If there are some

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part of your life that
you are quieting yourself.

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You're playing small.

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Just for the sake of trying to fit
other people's expectations of what

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you should be doing or who you should
be or how you should be acting.

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Like fuck that.

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Okay.

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I'm here cheering you on letting you
know that you have every right to be

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yourself and to stand up and speak up and

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go after what you want and to have a
life that you love, like that is your

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God-given right to live a life full of
joy and to be lit up and to be passionate.

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So even if you are stuck in a job
that you don't really like, and you're

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trying to figure out how to still
get paid by doing something that you

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love, like figure it the fuck out.

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Google's amazing.

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YouTube is amazing.

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Like whatever you want to
do, you know, start small.

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There's so many ways you can
build stuff up from scratch.

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You literally just have to do the
research and make that effort.

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There are ways to be resourceful and
figure stuff out and build your way

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up and, you know, ride it out with the
job maybe you're not so happy with, but

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at least the bills are still getting
paid while you work on a side hustle or

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open a business or work on, developing
more certifications or learning more

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things that you need to do to apply
for another job that you'd rather do.

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There's so many resources for you
and you just have to have that belief

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in yourself and, keeping yourself
open so that opportunities will

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come into your sphere of awareness.

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This is a good transition into
manifesting stuff for your life and

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setting goals and law of attraction.

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And manifesting things for your life.

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So next week.

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Let's do an episode on manifestation and
how you can really make things happen

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for your life and how it can actually
come easier than you might think.

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And it really just comes down
to keeping yourself open knowing

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your worth and what you want.

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Okay.

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Because when you start having that
self doubt and, start thinking,

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it's not in the cards for you.

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Like you're you have that mindset
of, oh, that can never happen.

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Or, I'm just unlucky, like
nothing ever works out.

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Like when you're in that Headspace, like,
no, nothing's going to show up for you.

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You get what you think about
whether you want it or not.

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So when you're constantly
thinking about, oh, my life sucks.

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Like, you know, things are going
to show up for you in that way.

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Okay.

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So there's a way to
attract positive energy.

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There is a way to attract abundance.

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There's a way to attract opportunities
that are perfect for you.

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Okay.

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So let's talk about that next
episode, all about manifestation.

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But right now, I just, want
to empower you to be you.

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Stand up.

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I'm here rooting for you.

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Please check in with me.

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Let me know what's going on with you.

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What are you struggling with right now?

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What are you trying to overcome?

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What are you trying to
stand up for yourself on?

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How are you trying to rise up and
stop playing small in something?

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Let me know, find me on my
website at ChelseaVanBuskirk.com

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or you can find me on Facebook
or Instagram @chelsea.vanbuskirk

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and I'll see you guys next week.

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Peace.